Working Weddings: My Biggest Pet Peeves
October 27, 2023
I love weddings, like really love weddings, and I have been lucky enough to have been invited to, in, and work quite a few weddings. In case you missed it in other posts, I have been in a lot of weddings ( not quite 27 but pretty close ) and I am also currently working the wedding circuit, so I have a lot to say about what drives me crazy.
Guests arriving late. This is so rude and disrespectful of the couple. Also, if someone tells you one of the couple is walking down the aisle, wait for a minute so you are not in the back of the images of them walking down the aisle.
Guests ( specifically women ) wearing white, cream, ivory, blush or any close variant. This is so tacky and it seems as though there are quite a few people who do not know this rule as they are intentionally wearing white, or predominantly white, outfits. This also counts if the background of the outfit is white. It does not matter that it is floral or patterned, if the white is not just little speckles or polka dots it is entirely inappropriate and tacky. While some people may not be that worried about it, it is much better taste to just wear your white clothing to anything anything but a wedding.
Not respecting the dress code. There was a wedding I worked a couple of months ago, that was Mormon, so it was very modest. A young woman who, I assume, was a plus one, showed up in a dress that was not modest at all. Don’t get me wrong, she looked great in it, but it was very much not appropriate around a very conservative group. This is also something I have noticed a lot with men who are not wanting to dress up, so they just show up in boots, jeans and a button up. If this is what the couple wants, that’s great! But if there is a groom and they are in a tux, you should probably be in something a little dressier.
Getting too drunk. This reflects poorly not only on you, but also the person who invited you. The room is filled with all of this persons closest relatives and friends, and you, having been invited by them, are a reflection of them. Please be a good reflection of them to their other guests.
I think this is my list, but I honestly could go on and on about these topics. Please, just be considerate of those you love, or don’t go to their wedding. This day may not be important to you, but it is very important to them. They spent countless hours and a lot of money on this one day and this one party. You will go to many weddings. They will have one ( if they are lucky ).
